What Is Anxiety? Anxiety can be accompanied by symptoms like; nervousness, overwhelm, tightness, panic, tingling, sweating, weakness and others. Anxiety can be felt in different parts of the body, including your chest, stomach, throat and jaw.
No one deliberately decides to feel anxiety, it is something that comes from your subconscious mind. It is an automatic reaction, that happens beyond your conscious control. This means you cannot simply ‘will it away’.
Do you get anxiety when you experience any of these situations? Do you feel anxious when you have things incomplete? Socially when you think people are looking at you? Not in control of location, or how long you will be in that location? Have unresolved family issues? Fear of conflict? Unresolved money issues? Stuck somewhere you don’t want to be, like at work or a party?
There Are Things That Can Reduce Your Anxiety:
- Spend time ‘getting grounded’, by being in nature.
- Develop social strategies that make you feel comfortable.
- Express your feelings; either to people, by writing, or through art.
- Examine the meaning of your anxiety – what is it trying to teach you?
Things Not To Do: (May Increase Anxiety)
- Beat yourself up and stop taking positive action.
- Focusing on worry, imagine the worst possible outcome.
- Drink alcohol, smoke cigarettes and drink coffee.
- Skip breakfast and have inconsistent meal times.
Case Study 1) I consulted with a lady who was worried about her daughter going overseas. There was some risk in the trip, but not too different from any other country. She would worry for about 1 hour every day. I asked her, “why isn’t the worry for 2 hours per day or just 10 minutes per day, could she purposefully do worry less”?
We found the intention of her worry, was showing that she cared for her family. I asked, “could you show you care for your daughter even more, by showing her love and encouragement”? Once the lady saw the intention of her worry, was showing care for family, she can now display this in a better, more purposeful way.
Case Study 2) I co-facilitate an empowerment program called SuperDads Online. One of the Dads had been stressed for 3 years about his financial situation. The more anxious he felt, the more he ignored the problem. We advised him on how to take control of his financial mess.
By the end of the program he had stopped drinking (escapism), is regularly exercising, has lost several kilos and has got his financial house accounted for. When working with ongoing anxiety, it is wise to address the problem directly, if you can.
A person experiencing anxiety will have their mind too focused on something they perceive to be negative or bad. All situations are neutral, until we give them meaning. Also the desire for something to be perfect, can be source of anxiety.
Use the following Power Questions to change your focus back to growth and solutions: Use them for any stressful situation, to help overcome anxiety.
1. What is great about this problem?
2. How can I learn from this?
3. What new opportunities are available to me now?
4. Am I focusing on problems or solutions?
5. What would love do now?
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