Are there ways to overcome self-sabotage and procrastination? Are there ways to be disciplined, without having to use large amounts of willpower? What is the easy way to be disciplined?
My secret to discipline is; to not use willpower. It might sound funny at first however let me explain. I still use effort, energy, reasoning and planning ahead but don’t wrestle with my mind, about whether to do something or not.
If using lots of willpower yet not achieving a goal, it may be time to step back and examine why you are really doing, what you are doing.
A goal with a strong enough purpose makes discipline easier, like a mother who cares for her baby. She continues to care, because the child inspires or is worth fighting for. The reason self-sabotage exists, may be to guide you back to something meaningful for you.
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In a healthy eating example, the goal can be extrinsic or intrinsic? Extrinsic refers to outer rewards, like gaining pleasure and losing weight. This type of goal usually requires extra willpower.
Intrinsic refers to an inner reward, like self-love. Pleasure and weight loss may not occur every day however self-love is both the action and reward. Focus on self-care and results will follow.
“Focusing intention on something meaningful, helps maintain discipline indefinitely.”
I encourage the use of intrinsic goals with my addiction process. Ideally, I want clients avoiding willpower, wherever possible. We focus on what inspires and is worthwhile to accomplish for each person.
Telling someone their habit is bad doesn’t promote growth. Satisfying needs is a surer path moving forward. You can apply this same reasoning to a habit/addiction you no longer desire. Examine what you get from the old behaviour and have those needs met from better sources.
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Good Day VS Bad Day
“But on bad days, it can be harder to stay motivated.” True, the lower mind takes over in stressful situations. It looks for instant pleasure and to avoid pain. At this time don’t rely on unhealthy habits, drink wine or sabotage. Use stress as a reminder that you are in need of nurturing!
On bad days, take more positive action, not less. Breathe deeper, hydrate more, eat better food, exercise the body, be still and take 3-5 positive actions each day. In 1 year you will have taken over 1000 productive actions towards the health outcomes you want.
The next time you are using willpower to stay disciplined, engage your higher mind by asking, “What is the intention here? Is this habit making me feel better or worse?”
- Examine what you truly need in life.
- Let go of things that are not meaningful or inspiring.
- On bad days look after your mind and body more, not less.
- Don’t use willpower to change any habit… search inside for a real purpose.
- Intrinsic goals are lasting and don’t rely on merely gaining pleasure and avoiding pain.
Jeremy Walker’s background is in Hypnotherapy. He created the WARP (Walker Addiction Removal Process) and is located in Brisbane QLD. Confidential appointments are available for quitting smoking, weight loss and anxiety related issues. Jeremy enjoys nothing more than seeing others make a positive shift!